Are you a thinker? Is that how you solve your problems? You write pros and cons on the paper and analyse the shit out of them? I did (do). But, wait a minute, I don’t (in theory) believe this is the best way to solve anything. I believe (in theory) the best way to solve anything is to let go and allow my higher self, or the universal forces, or whatever you may call it, to show me the best solution, to be guided by the feeling.
It’s become sort of my personal challenge of this year. So I’d like to get on with the practicality of this theory and hopefully, start a new, helpful habit, and get some real life evidence to support this belief.
Tired of Thinking
Thinking is good, but too much of it is not. Just like chocolate, right? I have always been a big advocate of needing to control things and figuring them out with my brain. I’m finding out though that some things we can’t control, and with over thinking and analysing we can literally drive ourselves mad and exhausted (which I do a lot). When we obsess about one problem all around, thinking becomes a pain, yet we must continue, ‘coz we need to solve it for our peace of mind. Or so we think.
Our brain only works with what it knows, so a lot of times we only create out of our old patterns, beliefs and past experiences. Wanting to create something new entirely requires you to tune into a different flow. It requires you to listen instead of talking, as it were.
I believe there is a part of me that has the overview of the whole picture, and can, therefore, provide me with an insightful and helpful information much more easily and accurately than my brain. So we can listen to this higher self’s messages when we quiet our inner dialogue and analysis of everything.[distance1]
Can You Trust Life?
Trusting life and going with the flow looks so easy on the paper but the reality of it might not be. Trusting that it’ll be fine and even with some bumps along the road, it’ll all work out.
I personally struggle to be completely trusting, and I get very jumpy and nervous. It’s almost like expecting something bad to happen as soon as I relax. I’m sure this has to do with previous experiences and what I took from them. But I’m willing to teach myself new habits, because even this is a habit I’ve once taught myself.
Sometimes we trust until we get a slap in the face or kick in the butt. But that only means we are responding to what’s happening outside of us. If you believe in the law of attraction, you agree with me that we create from the inside everything that then manifests outside. So it would make sense to look inside first. But it’s weird, right?
It’s easy to mistake it, and we’ve been taught that we are but poor victims of circumstances. This belief is hard to shake especially with most media and other people still believing and promoting them. We’re surrounded by that every day. But we can prove to ourselves different. By being more aware of our thoughts and feelings in the moment, and then seeing what happens in our lives.
Sometimes we trust until we get a slap in the face or kick in the butt. But that only means we are responding to what’s happening outside of us.
So if we create from the inside then what are your thoughts and feelings, what are you creating right now? Being more aware of how you feel and what you’re thinking in the moment can be very surprising and beneficial at the same time. Sometimes we are trapped in our habitual thoughts and do not even realise it.
Because you are creating what you’re vibrating (feeling, thinking), taking any action in a worrisome mind is not such a great idea. It’s better to get to a relaxed state first, and then go out and do something. Once we get more chilled and stop the worrisome thoughts, we get to create a different reality for ourselves.[distance1]
From Worrisome to Carefree
Do you know that feeling when you want something so badly and you’re trying very hard to make it happen but it’s just frustrating you more and more as it’s not turning out the way you want? And then you let go because that’s all you have left, and you’re tired and you can’t be arsed to give a damn and try anymore? And then it clicks into place?
That’s how you actually release the resistance and let the flow in. Just let go. Let go of the struggle. Of trying so hard. Abraham says often, ‘Life is supposed to be easy’. We are making it difficult for ourselves. Do you know those people who work hard all their lives in a miserable job and never get rich? And those who follow what they love, play and live in abundance? Let it go.
We can tangibly feel the resistance we are putting out, too. You might not even realise it as you’re so used to it and take it as a normal state. I’ve only noticed it when I let go, so in the contrast of no resistance I realise I had resistance before.[distance1]
To Let Go Is to Feel Fab
I love sleeping. Why? I realised it’s because I love the sensation of letting go so much. It’s like a balm to my soul, ‘coz I think so hard all day every day, from the moment I’m aware till the moment of losing consciousness in the sleep realm. I feel safe in my sleep, I know all is well. It’s like I’m in a different world there. So calm and accepting.
I love letting go so much in fact, that when I was younger, I wanted to get high all the time, to get out of my head, to release the resistance of the thoughts I was thinking. Of course, I didn’t know it were my thoughts that were causing the problem. I thought, as always, I could figure it out. Which I couldn’t. So, I longed blacking out, drinking until I’m not thinking about who I am and what I’m doing, and whether that’s good or bad. All to relief myself from the bad-feeling thoughts.[distance1]
Do You Do or Do You Be?
Anita Moorjani talks about Being vs. Doing in her book Dying to Be Me. Doing is how I’m living most of the time. Trying to figure it out, making plans and controlling everything with my mind. Being, however, is trusting. It’s going with the flow. Letting go of control.
Being doesn’t mean that we don’t do anything. It’s just that our actions stem from following our emotions and feelings while staying present in the moment. Doing, on the other hand, is future focused, with the mind creating a series of tasks that take us from here to there in order to achieve a particular outcome, regardless of our current emotional state.
– Anita Moorjani: Dying to Be Me
She says, “When we live completely from the mind (…), we lose touch with the infinite self, and then we begin to feel lost.” And I have been feeling lost a lot. And I know I totally live out of my head. Even these days, I’m trying to figure everything out and I don’t have that trust. I’m worried. And that’s living from fear – doing, rather than living from passion – being.[distance1]
Of course, everything is but a theory until we try it ourselves. So let’s practice letting go of resistance for 30 days straight and see what happens. Even if it’s only 10 or 30 minutes a day we let go, I’m sure we will notice some positive changes in our lives.
Meditation is a great tool for letting go, as you basically stop all the thought. Or better said, you don’t add to the thoughts, you don’t chase after them, you just allow them to come and go.
This is as much your experiment as it’s mine. I have not yet been practising meditation consistently for such period of time. I will do 30 days of May and on the 31st, I will post a review of my experience.[distance1]
- Take 10-30 minutes every day for yourself to sit down and turn off all stimuli. Sit or lay comfortably. You may listen to some beautiful music (preferably without words) or just be in a complete silence. Relax. Let the thoughts come and go, don’t add to them, don’t dwell on them. Let them go. This is your time of relaxation, the thought will come back to you later if it’s important.
- Take note of how you feel (before, during, after).
- Do this consistently for 30 days (you can simply set a daily reminder on your phone so that you won’t forget, or follow @lifetoplay on Instagram – I’ll be posting daily meditation updates with hashtag #ltpletgo, use this one if you want to post yours).
- Come back to this article and share your experience in the comments. I’d love to hear how was it for you (hard, easy, weird), if you noticed any changes in your life, in your feelings, behaviour?[distance1]
Let’s have fun with this and try to enter this challenge without any preconceptions and judgements. Thinking it will be too hard or nothing will happen will only set you up for ‘failure’. If you wanna see if there really is something to this meditation and letting go, you have to try it for yourself. If it doesn’t work for you, at least you’ll really know, not just assume. It’s not a big sacrifice to give this 10 minutes a day if it could significantly improve your mood, health, decision making and overall life. [distance1]